Foster may have only sort-of come out, and that made gays and lesbians angry, because they are tired of these sort of half-truths. But honestly, she is right — she shouldn’t have had to come out at all. She had been living openly as a partnered lesbian. For years. Why didn’t the mainstream media report on that?

Jennifer Vanasco is a is a news editor at WNYC and the former editor in chief of MTV Network's LGBT news site She writes about social minorities, national politics, and culture. Her award-winning newspaper column on gay and women's issues ran for 15 years.